This weekend was parents weekend for my sorority. My dad came in along with all of my friends dads. My dad mentioned to me that he thought it was really interesting the way relationships with parents and children have changed. This is a good thing though. Now we are much more open with our parents about what we do in college and we want to share that part of our lives with them. I know lately we have been reading about how our parents are so involved in our lives and constantly want to control and help us as we grow up, so this goes hand in hand with what I realized this weekend.
My dad told me that if there was a parents weekend when he was in college, he defiantly never would take his parents out to a party with him, or talk about his social lives with such openness. I feel like today parents and their kids sometimes even feel like more friends than anything. I can see a definite difference in the relationship I have with my parents and the relationship between my parents and my grandparents. My parents are very careful of what they around my grandparents. Their purpose is to please them. But I am not afraid to confront my parents on any issue.
I can see why some people would criticize these relationships because this way of relating to your parents can cause their presence in our lives to become overbearing and for them to be too involved. But personally I think that my closeness with my parents has allowed me to learn a lot from them and I am not afraid to talk to them about things that some kids would hide. I think as time goes on this new family structure will continue.
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Our parents really do care about us and our well-being. They truly want the best for us. There is a real difference in the way we interact with our parents now that we have entered college; of course, in a good way. I know some people have a hard time of letting their parents into their lives, as the child might seem to think the parents are "over protective" and nosy. I feel like the best way to cultivate that relationship with parents and children is constant communication whether if it is about a certain issue or if it is about nothing at all.
ReplyDeleteI have to agree with you one this one franny. I believe it is a very good thing that parents are associated with our social lives. I know that i feel much closer to my parents when they come in town and get a little taste of our college lives. Being open with your parents is always a key aspect to having a healthy relationship with them. This basically means that you have don't hide anything from which builds a strong relationship of trust. My dad also came down for dad's weekend and we both had the time of our lives, and I believe we are closer now because of it.
ReplyDeleteThis is so true!! I really enjoyed reading this post because it's something I think everyone can relate to. My parents don't drink or cuss, so it's always been hard for me to relate to them, especially with my dad.. we don't have the best relationship. But now that I'm in college and I've proved myself responsible to live on my own, doing anything I want, and still managing to make good grades, that may parents are more willing to accept things they wouldn't before. Honestly, I'm glad I can share more things with my parents, and I think they are too. My mom loves hearing stories from college now just because she feels like she's apart of my life.
ReplyDeleteI think this post is very interesting and I completely agree. I feel that since I have gone to college I have in a way become closer with my parents. I am not afraid of being grounded for drinking or staying out too late. When I tell them funny stories from the night before and laugh because they know I am in college and drinking/ going out is apart of the experience. I think I am proved myself to be responsible and to have a good head on my shoulders and I think that is what they are most worried about. I can't wait for parents weekend!!
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree with your observation. Though Tapscott and some of the writers we have covered in class say that our parents are merely over interested helicopter parents, I think there is more than that. Our generation of parents has in some way bridged the gap of mother and father to friend and supporter that used to be separate roles. This is definitely a healthier evolution of the parent-child relationship that should be braced by our society.
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